BAHU KO BETI SAMJHE

 ASSALAMUALAIKUM UMEED KARTI HU AAP SAB HAR BLOG PAR SUKOON SE NAZR E AMAL KARRAHE HO.. AAJ KA BLOG BOHOT SI AAM BAAT PAR HAI PAR BOHOT AHMIYAT WALI BAAT HAI. AKSAR log sharayat wahan yaad karte Hai jahan ladkion par kuch thopna hai agar wahi sharayat ladki apne haq ke liye kahe toh uske chand aise batain samne lekar ajate hai jo shayad kisi na kisi aur mudde par aap ne b kuch gair sharayi kaam kiye ho. Zaruri toh nahi ke ap ne woh kaam na kiya ho us ladki ne kiya ho laikin kuch aur bhi toh hosakta hai. Ye toh ap jaane aur ALLAH behatar jane. 

Masla sharayat ladkia aksar sasural me adjust hone lagjati hai. Phir bhi usku taane tanz aur kaam chor ka khitab hi diya jata hai.chahe woh kitna bhi kaam kare ya karne ki koshish bhi kare aap dekhte hue nazar andaz karte ho ya apko bas ye than lena hota hai kisi tarha bahu ke galati pakde.nayi shadi shuda zindagi ek saal tak bhi nayi hi hoti hai. Laikin hum toh apni 2--4 mahine ki bahu ko hi kaam chor ka khitab dete hai ye dekhte hue bhi ke woh baqubi apne kaam karrahi hai. Agar is beech usne kuch kaam na kiya ho toh ap usko anjaan mar den. Na ki usku kuch sunaye. YE MAT BHULIYE KE BAHU PAR APKE GHAR KE KAAM KARNI KI ZIMMEDARI NAHI HOTI HAI.USKI ZIMEDARI AUR FARZ SIRF SHOHAR KA KAAM KARNA HAI. LAIKIN PHIR BHI CULTURE KO FOLLOW KARTE HUE AUR APNI APNAIYAT SE WPH ADJUST KARNE JATI HAI. BIWI KO SAB SE ZYADA SATH USKE SHOHAR KA MILNA CHAHYE YE SAHI KE NIKAH KARKE BADE AUR BAKHI GHAR WALE LAATE HAI LAIKIN NIMAH TOH LADKE SE HI HOTA HAI NA KI APKE GHAR KE KAAM KAAJ KE LIYE.  usme bhi ap bajaye uski himmat afzai ke usku taane wagera deti hai. Wah kya baat hai.Dusron ke bachion ko ghar laane se pehle apne bacho ko aur apne apko is baat se mutamayeen karle ke hum na bachi ki shikayat unki maa se karenge na hi bachi ko moqa denge ke woh hamari shikayatain kisi se kare.Apni maa ke alawa bhi shohar ki maa ko maa samajh ke hat baat har dard takleef sunati hai toh ap ek aurat hone ke naate ye sonche ke mai b kuch chizon se guzri hu jab ye ladki mujhe maa samajh kar sab sunati hai toh mai apni beti ki tarha iski bhi madad karu. Naa ki sab sunke ye usme apne andaaz me batain phiraun aur jhooti sachi batain milake uski maa se shikayat karu.Apne baap ke alawa shohar ke baap ko baap samajhna maa ke alawa shohar ki maa ko maa samjhna ye bohot kam ladkia hi karti hai aise ladkion ko apne se dur na hone de bilawajah iqtelafat mat paida hone de.Nand ko behen man rhi hai toh us rishte ko izzat de na ki bezzati se use bigade. LADKI KO PARDE KE NAAM PAR UN SAARE NA MAHIRIM SE MILWAYA JATA HAI JISSE WOH PARDA KARNA CHAHTI HAI. YAHAN MAHOL AJATA HAI BEECH ME MAHOL?? ALLAH HU AKBAR.. DEVER KA SASUR KA SAB KA KAAM KARNA SAB KE LIYE PAKWAN KARNA SAB KE JHOOTE BARTAN DHONA KYA YAHI HAI APKE ISLAM ME? AB AP KO SHARAYAT YAAD NAHI AATI?  Rishta jab ladki qayam rakhna chahe toh use bigaade mat.AUR EK BAAT HOTI HAI JORU KA GULAAM KI wah.. SHOHAR AGAR KISI KAAM ME BIWI KI MADAD KARRAHA HO TOH WOH USKE ACHE AKHLAQ AUR APKI KHUDKI ACHI TARBIYAT HAI KE WOH DUSRE GHAR KI BACHI KO APNA KAR USKI IZZAT AUR MADAD KARRAHA HAI. APNI BIWI KI MADAD KARNA SHOHAR KA FARZ HAI APKI KHUD KI BHI BETIAN HAI AP KHUD BHI SHADI SHUDA HAI YE MAT BHULE KE JO KAROGE WOH BHAROGE.AYE MERI PYARI BEHENO AISA BAKHEDA MAT BANAO. ZINDAGIO KO SUKOON SE GUZAARO AUR GUZAARNE DO.SHOHAR KA BHI FARZ HAI APNI BIWI KE HAQ ME SAHI FAISLE LE AGAR USE GHAR KE KUCH KAAM SE AITRAZ HO TOH USKO ZABARDASTI KARNE PE MAJBUR NA KARE. ALLAH TAMAM GHARON ME KHAIR O BARKAT ATA KARE SAB KI ZINDAGI SUKOON SE GUZAARE SAB KO HAR MAMLE ME DEEN KI RAH PE CHALNE KI TOUFEEQ ATA KARE AAMEEN YA RAB.

NIKAH AUR HAMARE SHARTAIN (KADWA SACH): ASSALAMUALIKUM WA RAHMAT ULLAHI WA BARKA...

NIKAH AUR HAMARE SHARTAIN (KADWA SACH):           ASSALAMUALIKUM WA RAHMAT ULLAHI WA BARKA...:           ASSALAMUALIKUM WA RAHMAT ULLAHI WA BARKATUHU MERA NAAM HAMEEDA KHANAM HAI,MAI SHEHAR E HYDERABAD SE TALLUQ RAKHTI HU..

          ASSALAMUALIKUM WA RAHMAT ULLAHI WA BARKATUHU

MAI SHEHAR E HYDERABAD SE TALLUQ RAKHTI HU..AAJ MERA SAWAL AUR EK SACH AAP SABHI SE HAI JO APNE LADKE AUR LADKIO KE RISHTE ACHE GHARANE ME KARWANA CHAHTE HAI.. KUCH WAQT DEKAR ISKO PADHE AUR SAMJHE..

Ache gharane me toh sabhi apne ladke ladkio ke rishte jodna chahte hai, toh beech me ye shartain kyun ajati hai ke ladki slim hi honi chahye gori hi honi chahye lambi hai toh bohot lambi hai aur kam qad ki hai toh  qad kam? ladki ka background uska akhlaq dekha jata hai na ki uski personality. aur dusra sawal aur sach dusri shadi wale ladkon ke liye,JAB AAPKA LADKA SHADI SHUDDA HAI AUR DUSRA NIKAH KARNA CHAHTA HAI TOH SIRF AUR SIRF KUNWARI LADKI HI KYUN? BHAISAHAB KHUD TOH SHADI SHUDA HAI /TALAAQ SHUDA HAI AUR UMR SE KHAREEB 33,35 ,40 KE YA 40 SE ZYADA HAI AUR LADKI CHAHTE HAI KUNWARI WAH AUR WOH BHI KAM UMR,, AUR 2ND MARRIAGE KARRAHE HAI TOH BHI SHARTAIN KE LADKI SLIM HO WAGERA WAGERA.. UFF SHARTON KI TOH KOI LIMIT HI NAHI..AUR  KUCH JANAB APNI PEHLI BIWI RAKHTE HUE BHI DUSRI SHADI KARNA CHAHTE , KE ISLAM SE TOH HAME 4 SHADI KARNE KI IJAZAT HAI. CHALO MAAN LETE HAI KE KOI AULAD NA HONE KI SURAT ME DUSRA NIKAH KARNA CHAHTE HAI TOH KOI AAJ KAL LADKIO KE NIKAH JO NAHI HORAHE HAI UN WAJAH SE YE NAIK KAAM KARNA CHAHTE, is majburi ko samajha jayega, laikin usme bhi shart.. LADKI ME KUCH NA KUCH AYEB NIKAL HI JATE HAI INKI MEHARBANI SE.EK NAZAR APNE LADKE PAR BHI DEKH LE APNI LADKIO PAR BHI DEKHLE YE NA HO KE KAL KE DIN AAP KE LADKE LADKIO PAR BHI KOI AYEB NIKALE,

YE SIRF LADKO KE HI SHARTAIN NAHI HAI LADKI WALON KA BHI KUCH YAHI HAAL HAI,LADKON ME BHI KUCH NA KUCH AYEB NIKAL HI LETE HAI...MAINE DEKHA HAI KAYI AKHBAR KE ISHTEHAAR ME LADKI WALE CHAHTE HAI LADKA WELL SETTLED PADHA LIKHA HO AUR,SAB ABROAD ME APNI LADKI DENE TAYYAR HOTE HAI LAIKIN DISTRICTS ME DENE KE LIYE PICHE HAT TE HAI? KYUN? DISTRICTS ME KYA SAB GHAREEB HAI? YA ISLAM SE DUR HAI? DUBAI SAUDI AMERICA JAISE PAAS ME HI HAI AUR MAHBUBNAGAR SHADNAGAR MEDAK 2 DIN KA RASTA HAI?? YA IN JAGAH PE GRAHSTI NAHI HOTI?LADKE WALON KA YE HAI KE GRADUATE  MUST,  PEHLE SUNTE THE KE LADKI ZYADA PADHI LIKhI NA HO, AB LADKIO KO ITNA PADHARAHE HAI KE DEGREE TOH ZARURI HAI? KYU KYA APLOG LADKI SE JOB KARWANA CHAHTE HAI? CHULHA HANDI LADKE KO DENGE?

Kya islam me yahi sab sikhaya gaya hai? kya islam me ye kaha gaya hai ke  admi ke ya aurat ke tallaq aur khula ke baad woh usi se shadi kare jo sirf aur sirf kunwara ya kunwari ho? ya usi se shadi kare jo slim hi ho ya gori hi ho?.

           NIKAH KO ASAN BANANE KA MATLAB SIRF KAM KHARCH TAQAREEBAIN HI NAHI HOTE, JODI BANANE WALA SIWAYE ALLAH KE KOI NAHI HAI, AUR MASHA ALLAH SE HUM SAB ISS  BAAT KO SAMAJHTE HAI, TOH PHIR KYUN HAZARON LADKE LADKIA TALASH KARKE APNE AAPKO THAKA RAHE HAI? SHAADI DEENDAR GHARANE ME KARE, AUR AGAR WOH DEENDAR NAHI HAI TOH UNHE DEENDAR BAANAYE,MUJHE KOI EK COMMENT KARKE BATAYE KE HAMARE QURAN SHAREEF ME AUR HADEES YE LIKHA HO KE LADKA TALAQ SHUDA HAI TOH USKI SHADI SIRF KUNWARI LADKI SE HI HO, YA SLIM GORI LAMBI LADKI SE HI HO? MAAFI CHAHTI HU MERE BADON ME SE KOI YE POST PADHRAHE HO AUR UNHE IS BAAT KA BURA LAGRA HO TOH.

Bas ek baar sonche ke aapke aisa karne se kitne ladke ladkia hai jinke shadion me taqeer horahi ho? jinke shadi ho hi nahi rahi ho aur woh bas ek mazakh banke reh gaye hai?

acha gharana dikheye ache log dekhiye aur agar woh log ache nahi hai toh apni achayi se unhe ache banaiyye. "DON'T MARRY FOR LOOKS MARRY TO SETTLE UP YOUR LIFE MARRY TO GET A CHANCE FOR BECOMMING JANNATI, AND DON'T WAIT FOR A RIGHT PERSON"

PADH CHUKE HAI TOH SAMAJH BHI LIJIYE SAMAJH CHUKE HAI TOH DUSRON KO BHI SAMJHAYE.. ALLAH HUM SAB KO DEEN KE SAHI RASTE PAR CHALNE KI TOUFEEQ ATA FARMAYE AUR NIKAH KA ASLI MATLAB HUM SAB KO SAMJHYAE AMAL KARNE KI TOUFEEQ ATA FARMAYE.

AAMEEN..

JAZAKH ALLAH HU KHAIRA.